Military war dogs and no social skills

Not all people are made for military service, some contain stress inside and release it at home. Getting it off usually results in domestic violence related with sexual, psychological or physical abuse.

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The United States of America is a world’s leader in military industry. The officials spend more and more money on service men and products. Top US companies work on different military projects and developments. Every element of spendings builds up a strong body. But what is a body without a soul?


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Numerous events tell us about what kind of service men are in the army. For example domestic violence or the fact that many veterans suffer from PTSD. Being in the army means leaving everything when one hears the call of duty. It takes courage to risk one’s life and fight for everything one loves. It’s not all about the money, is it?

Spending state’s budget on staff’s mental condition is as important as on technological resources. However some think otherwise. Raising war dogs out of young men is the main key to the successful army. But those war children have no idea of how to live in a society. What to do if one decides to leave military? Will he be able to find his place in civil world?

Domestic violence on the other hand is an issue of both civilian and military. The problem has a vast list of reasons. It can be due to anger management issues or psychological problems. Violence at home among military is a fact.

Many face problems with bosses at work. When a boss has to be strict and sometimes rude to keep order at his office it’s almost impossible to avoid stress among staff. Same with military personnel. And there’s more.

Military service itself is one stressful job. It is risky and dangerous as commandors usually give more tension to keep the soldiers’ blood pumping.

Not all people are made for military service, some contain stress inside and release it at home. Getting it off usually results in domestic violence related with sexual, psychological or physical abuse.

A Huff Post’s investigation actually found that to this day service men are investigated rarely for the crimes related with domestic violence in the USA. Numerous stories of survivors of domestic abuse tell us that chiefs of military, commanders do nothing to cut the act of violence until it comes to masses. And they’ll deny any allegations covering for the true crimes committed.

There are multiple cases shared online by the survivors, and many more hidden from the public view. The victims are either scared to tell or don’t want to bring shame upon their families. HuffPost gives a few stories about this:

Blamed and shamed

Frankie, 31:

“For two and a half years, I dated a combat-wounded Marine. He was discharged after an improvised explosive device blast left him with severe and chronic pain, a traumatic brain injury and PTSD with severe suicidal ideas. When he was angry, his favorite thing to tell me was “I’ve killed more people than you have years of life.”

The Marine Corps trains a person to kill without flinching, teaches them that the only heroes never come home and that their lives are nothing out of uniform. Yet, after stripping them of their humanity, it simply sends them home and expects them to function in society. When I tried to discuss violence with the VA, the abuse was minimized, blamed on PTSD, and I was constantly burdened with the responsibility of forcing him into help he did not want. Even mentioning treatment often turned him violent, yet ordering me to get him help was the only support I was offered by the VA.

The same sentiments were echoed in support groups for significant others of military service members. Military wives often shamed women for fleeing abuse. Eventually, I got a protection-from-abuse order from the civilian court system. That process was not without fault either, but in the end, the civilian court system gave me the support and validation I’d sought from the VA for two years.”

‘Military comes first, mission comes first’

Ashley:

“My husband began to abuse me before he ever enlisted in the Air Force. He pushed me around, threw me down when he was mad, that sort of thing. He’d take away my phone, lock me out of the house and confiscate my car keys so I couldn’t go anywhere. I admit neither of us came from great upbringings, so we thought this was how you treat people.

After enlisting in the military, my husband was sent to his first duty station. I had to drop out of school and quit my job to move with him. Soon, I gave birth to our first child. But the abuse continued and, in a fit of rage, my husband slammed a door with my hand in it, on purpose.

I called the military police and they showed up, along with my husband’s chain of command, and sent us and our toddler to the Family Advocacy Program (FAP) office on base. I told them what happened and they tried to dissuade me from reporting. They said I had nothing: no job, nothing to fall back on, and that it wouldn’t look good to the courts. They wanted to know if I was ready to jeopardize his career. Then they asked my husband to come back into the room and for me to repeat my story with him there. When he came back in, I froze. I told them it was probably my fault … that I put my hand in the door when he was shutting it. I was terrified I was going to lose my child.

We returned home. No one from FAP ever followed up, and his abuse continued. It became more psychological and controlling — he didn’t want me talking to other people, wouldn’t let me get a job, and told me things like nobody’s going to let me have the kids if I left him.

We had two more children and were moved to a base overseas. I went to FAP for a referral to marriage counseling. The counselor on base said, “Well, military comes first, mission comes first, so whatever he needs to do to make sure he’s happy and healthy, that’s what needs to happen in a relationship.” It boosted my husband’s confidence that whatever he was doing was normal and OK.

That was the last time I asked for help for myself. It’s been almost 18 years of marriage now and we have three children. The abuse at home has declined somewhat but it hasn’t stopped completely. The fact that my husband keeps two guns in the house makes me nervous. I keep the ammunition in a safe place. I don’t think he’d ever hurt the kids, but I think if he was in a rage, I don’t think he’d think twice about hurting me.”

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The victims of this crime are countless. Some say that military men are to be the examples of strength and gentlemen qualities, such behavior is nothing but an example of cowardliness and weakness. Many tried to draw attention to the problem but the actions taken by the commanders didn’t bring much results.

There are more stories online, most of them are terrifying. Though the situation isn’t handled as it should be, the U.S. Government has developed help programs for such occasions.

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